in which a daughter says it better

I’m walking home from work this evening to meet up with my sis and my cousin for dinner, and I find this status kicking a little ass amongst friends on facebook:

“[I’m] disappointed to see all of the judgmental, mean and even flat out jokes being said about Amy [Winehouse]'s death.  Addiction is never funny and unless you have a loved one who has gone through a similar struggle [you] have no right to judge a perfect stranger.

This week of all weeks should remind us we all need to practice a little more compassion.”

If you could give your kids one thing, what would it be? 

I’m moving down to number two.  Number one, compassion, seems to be taken care of.

Moments in which you realise a daughter has become much more than you ever hoped she'd be: beautiful thing number 49.


  1. Reply
    Little hat July 26, 2011

    Poor Amy. So sad when such talent is extinguished. As i read that back i’m seeing that I have reduced her to a voice and a label. That’s hardly recogising her humanity and her life as a daughter, partner etc.
    Yes, it’s so easy to judge. well said Jen Jnr.

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    Jennifer July 26, 2011

    Well Steve, I guess you could say that the talent was extinguished along with the person. And yes, exceedingly sad.

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    Susan Tiner July 27, 2011

    You must be very proud of your daughter. Often when I think of my kids I’m just so happy that they’re warm, compassionate people with a wonderful sense of humor.

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    Selma July 28, 2011

    I haven’t been able to believe the nasty comments I’ve seen about Amy, particularly on Twitter. It’s just horrible. Why are people so mean? I’ll never understand it.
    Compassion is such an amazing quality to see in a child. Along with kindness there’s really not much more you could ask for!

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    Marilyn July 28, 2011

    I have just read ‘To Kill a Mockingbird’ for the first time (great book) and in it Atticus Finch said “You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view – until you climb into his skin and walk around in it.”

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    Jennifer July 29, 2011

    Yes I am Susan. And am happy for the same things you are!

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    Jennifer July 29, 2011

    I’ll never understand it either, pal.
    Yes it is amazing. Carly’s no longer a child, but she had it then too. As did her sister.

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    Jennifer July 29, 2011

    Oh wonderful book Marilyn! And Atticus Finch is exactly right.
    Great to ‘see’ you again – I hope all is well in your world!

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